Dr. Robert Anthony: Pessimists have 1 thing in common...‏

Are you an optimist or a pessimist?  Psychologist Martin Seligman, the godfather of the positive psychology moment, conducted extensive research in optimists versus pessimists. What he found was optimism can be learned. He discovered that optimists consistently talk about what they are rather than what they are not, or what they have instead of what they don't have. Pessimists have one thing in common, they talk about why things are not the way they should be and what they don't have.

We are not born pessimists. In fact, all children are optimists until we program them differently. Stand outside any amusement park on any given weekend and talk to the families that exit. Kids come out and you ask them, "What did you think of the park?" The gush, "Oh that was so cool!" Now talk to the parents and here is what they say, "Lines are too long".  "Food was overpriced". "The damn noise and crowds get on my nerves". So is the amusement park a happy place or a place from hell? The answer is - it is neither. It depends on the meaning we give to it.

How did we go from being born optimists to being pessimists? Somewhere along the way we were trained not to be optimistic in case things don't work out.  If you are too optimistic and things don't work out you will be very disappointed.  But if you are pessimistic and they don't work out you will be less disappointed and of course, you will be "right".  

Seligman also states that we can learn or relearn how to be optimistic. According to his research optimists outperform pessimists ten to one! Maybe it is time to reprogram our thinking and ask, "What is good about this situation?" and if we cannot find the good, ask, "What does my reaction to this say about me?" This can help you to become more of an optimist.

Truly Caring for Your Success!

Dr. Robert Anthony

Abraham-Hicks: The 5 Step Process Of Creation

Abraham-Hicks: Their Most Important Message

"This is my time of chilling.

This is my time of re-aligning the energy of my source.

This is the time, when source takes over my apparatus.

This is the time when source is communicating with my cells.

This is the time, when source is resonating with the cells of my body.

This is the time of complete relaxation, for me.

This is the time of complete renewal for me.

This is the time, when my body renews itself.

This is the time when my vibration restores itself.

This is the time, that I push the reset-button.

This is the time, when I let all that has been, just subside.

This is the time, where I begin in a new vibration, that will really serve me.

This is the time, where I allow the momentum of my Vortex to begin moving into my life-experience.

This is the turning point for me, but not a turning-point that requires action!

In fact, it´s the opposite.

It requires de-activation.

It requires re-laxing, it requires softening my vibration.

It requires letting myself be.

It requires trusting that all is well!

It requires letting the source within me revel in that, which is me."

"You can meditate yourself into riches.

You can meditate yourself into fame and fortune.

You can meditate yourself into ANYTHING, by slowing the resistance and just finding the place.

Don´t worry, you can´t stay there!

Your Vortex is so full of all you want, and the source within you knows the path between where you are, in terms of ALL your manifestations, and where you want to be.

So IF YOU created the right environment, the path will reveal itself to you." 

Abraham Hicks

Abraham-Hicks: The Process Of Creation. How To Bring What You Want Into Your Life

Dr. Robert Anthony: Connection

"The motions and patterns and connections of things become apparent on a gut level." - Robyn Davidson

Have you ever had a moment in time when you were amazed at how connected things and people are?  Sometimes it comes from finding out that a current friend went to college with someone you both know or your colleague in a foreign country is reading the very same book you are at the time. As our world has shrunk and we are able to communicate so quickly, we now can validate what many have been saying throughout the ages; we are all connected.

When we are having a difficult time it is easy to forget that we are connected.  It isn't that our connection is ever broken, most of the time it is because we have closed down our extensions of connection and forgotten we are not alone.

Have you ever had a bad day lightened up by an interaction with a stranger?  Have you ever had difficulty understanding something and then received an answer simply by observing nature or animals?

Try this when you are seeking an answer to a question. Go for a walk in nature, or even just in your neighborhood. As you walk, suspend thinking about either the question or the answer and pay attention to your environment.  Feel the temperature of the air on your skin, notice the sound your feet make as you walk, let your eyes move and see whatever they want to, smell the air and touch the textures that you pass as you walk.  As much as possible, just be in the moment with the changing scenery as you walk.

Notice any pattern you see along the way, the way the flowers are growing, the way the dogs fight for a bone or the stillness of the evening, as examples. When you come home ask yourself if you have any answers to your question. Allow whatever is there to emerge.  On a deep gut level, you always know more than you think you do.

Truly Caring for Your Success!

Dr. Robert Anthony

[Positivity] No One is Coming‏!

Today I would like to share one of my favorite thoughts on self-improvement.

This short thought comes from Nathaniel Branden's book The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem and it simply goes like this: 

"No one is coming".

Short. But it has been a powerful and sobering reminder for me.

Because yes, you can look for the next big thing that will fix you. 

Read more blog articles. Read more personal development books. Look for people to help you. 

And yes, some articles, books, products or people will give you support and insights that resonate deeply with you and that you can put into practice. 

But in the end, if you are an adult then no one is coming. No one is coming to save you. You have to take responsibility for your own life and what happens in it. Other things and people can certainly aid you quite a bit. But you are responsible.

You can go around blaming society or some people for your problems in your social life. Or finances. Or health. You can always find scapegoats to judge to feel better about yourself. You can look for people that will "fix you". You can do this for the rest of your life if you like. It won't change much. Whatever has to be done, it's you who have to take responsibility and do it.

Yeah, things might always not go your way. You'll fall and stumble and you will probably have bad luck from time to time.

But you still have to focus on yourself and on doing what you can do with what you have in whatever situation that may arise in your world.

Have a wonderful day.

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