Dr Robert Anthony: What Is Your Relationship With Your NOW?‏

What is the most important relationship in your life?  Is it with your spouse, your partner, your lover, your parents, your friends? If you answered "yes" to any of these, I would suggest you look further. The most important relationship in your life is your relationship with the PRESENT MOMENT. More specifically, whatever form the present moment takes, that is to say, what is happening or "what is" right now.
 
If your relationship with the present moment is dysfunctional, that dysfunction will be reflected in every relationship and every situation you encounter.  All problems that we experience in life are simply a dysfunctional relationship with the present moment.
 
Once you have reached a certain level of awareness (and if you are reading this, you almost certainly have) you are able to decide what kind of relationship you want to have with the present moment.
 
Ask yourself, "Do I want the present moment to be my friend or my enemy?" The present moment is inseparable from Life so what you are really deciding is what kind of relationship you want to have with Life. Once you have decided you want the present moment to be your friend, it's up to you to make the first move. Become friendly toward it and welcome it no matter what disguise it may have.
 
If you do this, you will soon see the results. Life becomes friendly toward you, people become helpful, and circumstances cooperate with you. This one decision can change your entire reality. But you have to make that one decision again and again and again - until it becomes a new way to live.
 
Truly Caring for Your Success!
 
Dr. Robert Anthony

Abraham-Hicks: Feeling Good Is The Key To Living A Successful Life

Dr Robert Anthony: How To Deal With Negative Emotion

No matter how much we read or study and practice personal growth we are not immune to limiting beliefs that come up every so often. Our limiting beliefs are our conditioned mind or our UNCONSCIOUS Guidance System moving us in the wrong direction. Remember, anytime you feel any negative emotion you know you are out of the Flow and out of Alignment with what you truly desire in your life

People often ask me how I handle this when it happens to me. My response is the first thing I do is acknowledge that it is happening. I find that if I try to fight it or deny it, I give it more power. So I just say to myself, "That's interesting. Why do I feel this way?"  And then I feel it. It is important to allow yourself to feel the emotion behind it because that is an emotion you need to deal with in order to release it.  If you don't allow yourself to feel it you will bury it. And if you try to bury it alive, like a horror movie, it will arise again and haunt you. It will reoccur and may surface at an inappropriate time which could cause you to feel angry or even break down into tears or have some type of emotional outburst because you didn't feel the emotion originally.

So I take a look at it without judgment. And when I don't fight it, it dissipates, dissolves and evaporates because I don't give it any power. I just allow it to be there, acknowledge it and then let it go.

The next step is I always replace it with a better feeling thought. So after you acknowledge it, feel it, express it and let it go, just reach for the alternative to it. Reach for the opposite of it.

This is the same as experiencing what you don't want, in order to discover what you do want.  That belief or emotion is probably one you don't want. And a great way to deal with it is to simply reverse the belief that showed up. For example, you have the belief or emotion that there is not "enough". There is never enough, money, love, food, freedom, etc. (fill in the blank).  The opposite of that is there is ALWAYS more than enough, if I am willing to accept it.

So the point here is that when this happens, you acknowledge it, feel it, don't fight it and then just reach for a better feeling thought. That thought is usually the opposite or alternative to it. When you choose that, you have regained control and the new belief creates a new emotion which attracts a new experience.  It is as simple as that!

Truly Caring for Your Success!

Dr. Robert Anthony

Dr Robert Anthony: Have You Forgiven Yourself For Past Trauma's?

If you feel stuck in any area of your life it could very well be due to a lack of forgiveness. Perhaps you are having trouble forgiving someone else or yourself. It doesn't matter. Holding on to past memories or "stories" is guaranteed to tie up your energy and block your ability to attract what you want.
 
I struggled with forgiveness for many years because I believed that if I forgave someone they would not receive the "just punishment" they deserved for what they had done to me. But as I looked at that belief I realized it was just that, a belief. In fact, it was just an assumption and an illusion.
 
What I learned is that the universe will always seek balance and it will deal with that person or situation in the appropriate way, even if it that means letting them off the hook.  The outcome in their life has nothing to do with the outcome in my life unless I choose to keep myself tied to it.
 
If you think about it, when you choose to forgive someone, it is nothing more than an ego trip. When you say "I forgive you", what you are really saying is you have some sort of hold over them. By saying "I forgive you", you decree that you are pronouncing them "free" of your resentment. That isn't forgiveness. That's an ego trip.
 
There is really nothing to forgive.  What we call forgiveness is simply letting go. It is not placing judgment on other people or yourself. When you are truly conscious you realize that nothing "bad" or "wrong" happened. You may judge it as "bad" or "wrong", but from the view of ALL THAT IS what occurred is simply what occurred. It's over. It's done. It's history. 
 
Because we believe something "bad" happened, we still think of ourselves as being victimized no matter how much we try to forgive. So we are caught up between two conflicting energies. One is to condemn and blame and the other is to forgive. This is why we struggle with forgiveness.
 
However, when we are truly conscious we realize nothing "bad", "negative" or "evil" happened at all. In fact, what happened didn't happen TO you but FOR you. It happened to help you to awaken and grow. It was part of your life lesson to bring you to where you are right now and to allow you to let go of your "story" of victimization.
 
So if you are stuck in any area of your life, take a look at your unwillingness to forgive yourself or others and just let it go! Realize there is nothing to forgive. You just have to release it and move on.
 
Truly Caring for Your Success!
 
Dr. Robert Anthony

Dr. Robert Anthony: Victim NO MORE

I talk a lot about victimhood because I find this is the place where most people live. In working with companies that have asked for my help, the first thing I look at is the manager or CEO of the company. In almost every single case I invariably discover that the core problem is not with the company, but with the manager or CEO. Usually he or she is living at the victim level of awareness when it comes to his or her business.

Their "story" is usually how they are being victimized by their partners, employees, suppliers, the government, etc. Until they move out of the victim level, it is impossible for me to help their company. So I work on them first.

What about your life? The bottom line is if your internal story is one of victimhood, you will suffer. It is very simple. And if you are quite certain that you are not telling yourself a story of victimization, and yet you continue to suffer, then I suggest you are lying to yourself. You are telling yourself some variation of a story of how you have been wronged. Whether it is a story of God, your parents, your current or former husband, wife, girlfriend, boyfriend, the government or circumstances that have wronged you, it is all a story about being a victim.

Even the most violent aggressors, when the superficial layer of aggression is cracked, have a story of having been wronged. Striking out in anger against individuals, groups or countries always involves a story of victimization.

Seeing how your victim story plays out in your life is an important step to realizing true freedom. When you really see that your victim story has to be recreated each time it plays out, you realize you are perpetuating it. Playing it over and over in your mind takes energy, attention, belief, emotion and some kind of masochistic pleasure in the pain. Yes, it is shocking! To see this operating in you can be quite disturbing.

To stop being a victim doesn't mean to trivialize the horror in your life, to deny it, gloss over it or repress it. However, it does mean you don't have to justify, wail, moan, complain or seek revenge. You just leave it alone. It does not serve you in any way. Are you willing to let your stories of victimization go?

Are you willing to let all those horrible aggressors go unpunished? At a certain point you have to be willing to call it off. Are you willing to end it? You are free to suffer and you are free to stop suffering. No one can end it but you. That is where your true freedom lies. When you consciously choose to let suffering go you are free. The bondage of victimization is thinking you do not have a choice. You can choose to be free or you can choose to continue to suffer. It's up to you.

Truly Caring for Your Success!

Dr. Robert Anthony