Sunday 13 September 2015

Dr. Robert Anthony: Connection

"The motions and patterns and connections of things become apparent on a gut level." - Robyn Davidson

Have you ever had a moment in time when you were amazed at how connected things and people are?  Sometimes it comes from finding out that a current friend went to college with someone you both know or your colleague in a foreign country is reading the very same book you are at the time. As our world has shrunk and we are able to communicate so quickly, we now can validate what many have been saying throughout the ages; we are all connected.

When we are having a difficult time it is easy to forget that we are connected.  It isn't that our connection is ever broken, most of the time it is because we have closed down our extensions of connection and forgotten we are not alone.

Have you ever had a bad day lightened up by an interaction with a stranger?  Have you ever had difficulty understanding something and then received an answer simply by observing nature or animals?

Try this when you are seeking an answer to a question. Go for a walk in nature, or even just in your neighborhood. As you walk, suspend thinking about either the question or the answer and pay attention to your environment.  Feel the temperature of the air on your skin, notice the sound your feet make as you walk, let your eyes move and see whatever they want to, smell the air and touch the textures that you pass as you walk.  As much as possible, just be in the moment with the changing scenery as you walk.

Notice any pattern you see along the way, the way the flowers are growing, the way the dogs fight for a bone or the stillness of the evening, as examples. When you come home ask yourself if you have any answers to your question. Allow whatever is there to emerge.  On a deep gut level, you always know more than you think you do.

Truly Caring for Your Success!

Dr. Robert Anthony

[Positivity] No One is Coming‏!

Today I would like to share one of my favorite thoughts on self-improvement.

This short thought comes from Nathaniel Branden's book The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem and it simply goes like this: 

"No one is coming".

Short. But it has been a powerful and sobering reminder for me.

Because yes, you can look for the next big thing that will fix you. 

Read more blog articles. Read more personal development books. Look for people to help you. 

And yes, some articles, books, products or people will give you support and insights that resonate deeply with you and that you can put into practice. 

But in the end, if you are an adult then no one is coming. No one is coming to save you. You have to take responsibility for your own life and what happens in it. Other things and people can certainly aid you quite a bit. But you are responsible.

You can go around blaming society or some people for your problems in your social life. Or finances. Or health. You can always find scapegoats to judge to feel better about yourself. You can look for people that will "fix you". You can do this for the rest of your life if you like. It won't change much. Whatever has to be done, it's you who have to take responsibility and do it.

Yeah, things might always not go your way. You'll fall and stumble and you will probably have bad luck from time to time.

But you still have to focus on yourself and on doing what you can do with what you have in whatever situation that may arise in your world.

Have a wonderful day.