Did you know that you talk to yourself all day long?
No, not the mental chatter about activities and chores that you need to remember throughout the day. That's a form of self talk too - but I'm referring to the things you say to yourself on a regular basis; and more importantly, the tone in
which you say them.
When you make a mistake, do you berate yourself angrily? Do you put yourself down or call yourself derogatory names?
When you have a hard time making positive changes in your life, do you bemoan what a "worthless" person you are and conclude that you can't do anything right?
Negative self-talk can be incredibly damaging to your self- esteem, especially if it's a big part of your daily life. When you keep saying things like that to yourself, eventually you begin to BELIEVE them!
Highest self-esteem and self-confidence are two of the "keys" to unlocking the door to your desires.
Most often these negative messages begin as statements uttered by the adults in your life when you were a child.... They may have said something negative about you when your actions displeased them, or perhaps they had a habit of saying unkind things even when you didn't deserve it.
As painful as these experiences can be, even worse is when you pick up where they left off and keep repeating the same negative messages to yourself over and over!
The good news is that you can change your "self-talk" any time you want. The first step is to become AWARE of the 'tone' of your messages and consciously 'replace' them with more encouraging ones.
Try these simple steps for starters:
* Develop AWARENESS of your self-talk. It may take practice, but if you start "listening" in to your inner voice, you'll begin to notice when you talk negatively to yourself.
* CHALLENGE the negative messages. When you notice yourself saying something negative such as, "You're such a screw-up, you can't do anything right" - Stop yourself and challenge that belief. Is that really true? Maybe you mess up sometimes, but do you ALWAYS mess up? Probably not.
* REPLACE these negative messages with positive messages. When you realize you're saying unkind and untrue things to yourself, simply TURN IT AROUND in your mind.
Using the above example, you might say, "Wow, that's not true at all! I do plenty of things right. It's true I make mistakes, but so does everyone. I'm a good person and I try my best. That's good enough for me."
Over time, your efforts will pay off in the form of stronger self- esteem and RESPECT for Yourself and your Capabilities. It probably won't happen overnight, but the more you work at turning your self-talk in a more positive direction, the better you'll feel about yourself.
Richard A. Luck [NewYouLifeCoaching]
PS: Higher self-esteem and self-confidence are two of the major KEYS to unlocking the door to your goals & desires. You'll be amazed....
Monday, 24 October 2011
Sunday, 23 October 2011
But you’ve got to decide first, that it is good to feel good. It is so screwy...how did you ever get crosswise of that? “Let’s see now, struggle is good; pain is good.” And we say, in what world? Oh, they promised you that it would be good after you die. Well, they lied...It will be good after you die, but not because you’ve paid the price of struggle.
It’s just good when you die because when you die, you quantum leap into Pure Positive Energy. When you die, you stop beating the drum of all of those things that have been keeping you from full Connection to Source.
But friends, as long as you’re here in these physical bodies, quantum leaps, rare as they are, never last. That’s not the route you’re wanting to go. You’re not wanting to jump right to bliss from despair. Just work your way up your emotional scale.
So here’s this Emotional Scale. On one end of it, it feels really good; on the other end it feels really bad. On the really goodfeeling end there is your perception of freedom. On the really bad-feeling end, there is your perception of not freedom. (And we carefully ask Esther to find the word perception because freedom is perceptual.) You are free. You’re so free, you can choose bondage. You are so free, that no one can do anything to you. You are so free, that you are the only one who is causing anything to happen in your experience.
You say, “But wait. That person did such-and-such to me.” And we say, but it was your observation of it, and the subsequent contradiction in vibration, that caused the vibrational meltdown within you that disallowed the Well-Being that would have been there if you hadn’t been observing it. And you say, “Well, I wouldn’t have been observing it if they weren’t doing it.” And we say, yes, but now you’re getting into that realm where you have to control the conditions. Now you’re saying, “If I observe things that feel bad, I feel bad. So, I need to find some way of controlling things so that everything that I observe will be good.” And we say, give it up! You don’t get to decide what other people put in their pie.
Nobody can put anything in your pie unless you observe what they’re putting in their pie. And when you observe what they’re putting in their pie, now you’re a vibrational match to what they’re putting in their pie, and now you’re putting it in your pie. And now you’re blaming them because you’ve got it in your pie! But you are the one who put it in your pie. “No, I didn’t,” you say, “I didn’t put it in my pie. They put it in my pie. They put it in their pie first, and then some of it got in my pie.” And we say, none of it could have gotten in your pie if you hadn’t had your nose in their pie. If you hadn’t been paying attention to somebody else’s pie, you wouldn’t have their stuff in your pie. You only get in your pie what you are giving your attention to.
And you say, “Well, it’s hard not to notice what other people are putting in their pie.” And we say, we know it can be hard, but maybe you could start making your own pie and getting interested in that. “Well, my pie isn’t as interesting as their pie. Their pie’s on CNN! Their pie is on the front page of the newspaper. Their pie is on my soap opera and on all the television programs. The stuff that they’re putting in their pie seems to be everywhere. And because it’s everywhere, it keeps getting in my pie.” Only because you’re giving attention to it. Nothing can get in your pie that you’re not giving your attention to.
“Well, how can I not give my attention to the things that are everywhere?” And we say, find something that feels good to you—and give your attention to that. “Well, it’s hard,” you say. “It’s hard to focus.” And we say, but that’s what a creator does. A deliberate creator focuses. A deliberate creator decides what he wants in his pie, and puts it in his pie. “Well, how do I know for sure what I want in my pie?” Make some pies and eat them, and see how they taste. We call that post-manifestational pie eating. We call that waiting until it has manifested in order to figure out what the vibrational content of it was… It works.
Or, you could pay attention to the way you feel while you’re putting the stuff in your pie, because if it feels good while you’re putting it in there, it’s going to taste good when it’s done.
We call these teachings the Art of Allowing because it is the art of learning, by feeling your way, by releasing resistance little by little by little until you become up to speed, or in vibrational alignment, with your own desires. And when you do that, the vibrational alignment—even though your object of desire has not yet been manifested—the alignment with the idea of it is truly heaven on earth.
When you get in sync with the power of You; when you get in sync with your right, and your ability, to create, then you can relax and acknowledge that there is nothing that I cannot be or do or have—but I don’t have to be or do or have it all right now. There is plenty to enjoy now, and plenty coming along the way, and, fortunately, it will not come in faster than I can allow it.
You will not be able to receive something that you’re not vibrationally up to speed with.
So, it turns out that the joyous life is the life that is being lived by the person who is aware of the relativity between their currently active thought (which is all a belief is) and their desire. When you learn to manage this Vibrational Relationship between where you are and where you want to be, life becomes sweet even though many things are not fulfilled—yet… Now, what we mean by that is, if you get—by virtue of focusing; doing creative workshops; going to meetings where people are getting you all juiced up about wanting things—if you get your desire factor activated at a much faster pace, on one or a number of subjects, than you’ve got your belief factor activated, you’re going to cause chaos in your own experience.
W a n t i n g things you don’t believe are possible is not pleasant. And yet, we don’t want you to ratchet your desire back down to your belief level— because then, nothing can change. And, do you know, that’s what most people are doing? Most people are spending most of their time looking at what-is.
When you are giving most of your attention to what-is, you’re offering most of your vibration about what-is, so you’re just getting more of what-is—different places, different faces, but essentially, what-is.
So, the way it works is, you observe what-is. You offer a vibration about what-is. Law of Attraction matches what-is, and you get more of what-is… So, you observe more of what-is; you offer a vibration about what-is. Law of Attraction matches what-is, and you get more of what-is… So, you observe what-is; you offer a vibration about what-is. Law of Attraction matches what-is, and then you get more of what-is. And then you observe what… (Fun!) We could go on because you do. That’s what you keep doing, mostly.
And what we are wanting to call your attention to is that it’s fine to observe what-is, especially if what-is is pleasing you. But you might want to fill in the missing gaps with memories of things that were pleasing, or imagining things that are pleasing, because Law of Attraction does not give you access to thoughts that are very far from the thoughts that you’ve been actively thinking… When you focus upon something, you activate the vibration. And when you activate a vibration, Law of Attraction gives you more thoughts that are like that. And as you hold your attention there, that activation becomes strong enough that it’s not just an activation— it’s a dominant activation. And when something becomes a dominant activation, you call that a belief. We want to soften it by just saying a belief is only a thought you keep thinking.
When you continue to think a thought (or activate a vibration) that is not in alignment with who your Inner Being knows you are, and with what you really want— then negative emotion ensues. And what happens to so many of you (bless your hearts; we mean this adoringly) you get used to that negative emotion. So, you call it normal. You just become willing to put up with being ornery, or being overwhelmed, or being frustrated, or being angry.
And you are really not wanting to put up with that when your Guidance System is alerting you to the fact that you’re not on the path that you have designed; that you have divined— that you have honed out of the contrast of your life experience… All that stuff’s being held over there for you in Vibrational Escrow, just waiting for you to become a vibrational match to it—all of the things that you want are just waiting for you to find vibrational alignment with them. And if we were standing in your physical shoes, we would not put up for a moment with negative emotion.
So, it is our powerful desire that today you discover a new determination to bless your Emotional Guidance System because it is giving you such important information about the Vibrational Relativity between the thoughts that you’re thinking and what you really are wanting, and that you make a decision that you are going to do your best to feel as good as you can feel—all day long—on every subject that becomes active within you.
You have, long ago, most of you, given up your rights to your own Guidance. You stopped trusting yourself because they ganged up on you. There were two of them when you were born, (most of you) and then more and more and more, and more. Then, there’s all that peer group pressure, and then all those law enforcement agencies, not to mention the people that you really care about… But you tend to care more about what they think about what you’re doing, than you do about how you feel.
We want to reactivate within you a determination that you are going to get hold of the Vibrational Relationship between you and You. Because you are Eternal extensions of Source Energy, and the Source Energy that is you loves you, and loves others. The Source Energy that is you knows your value; knows your worthiness; knows all of the wonderful things that are over here in V i b r a t i o n a l Escrow waiting for you, and will always be a vibrational match to those things that you want, and will never join you in your depression. That’s why depression feels like depression:
The feeling of anger, the feeling of any negative emotion, is you holding a vibrational pattern that is disallowing your full Connection with who-you-are. And so, negative emotion is your indication that you are not allowing that full Connection to Source.
We never see you stick a “Happy-face” sticker over your gas gauge because it is troubling to you to see that it’s empty. “Oh, I’m empty. I’d better cover that up. It bothers me to see that.” You sort of want to know when your tank’s empty, don’t you? And if you wait ‘til it really empties out, it’s much more trouble than if you just catch it as it approaches empty, and then do something about it. And this is what your Emotional Guidance System is doing for you, too. It’s letting you know you’re sort of emptying out in this moment. And so, you might want to see if you can’t find a better feeling-place about this.
Start guiding yourself by caring about how you feel. Start guiding yourself into your Stream of Source Energy, for that’s where your clarity is; that’s where your joy is; that’s where your flexibility is; that’s where your balance is; that’s where your good ideas come from. That’s where all the good stuff is accessed from…
You cannot get to the good stuff from the place of feeling bad—it defies Law. And you cannot get to the bad stuff from the place of feeling good—it defies Law!
Excerpted from Abraham-Hicks Workshop G-5-28-05 — Chicago, IL
"Reduce your workload by 30% and increase your fun load by 30% and you will increase your revenues by 100%. And you will increase your productivity by 10,000%. (If there could be such a percentage.) More fun, less struggle — more results on all fronts."
I am sure you have read and heard a lot about potential, but there is a major difference between our potential and our capacity. The major difference is that potential is based on the future. When someone has the potential to do something, it is about becoming something other than who they are in the present moment.
Capacity is based on the present moment. Your capacity already exists. Capacity is defined by doing what you can do today - in this moment.
At one time I thought I could help everyone. I wanted to spread my message everywhere so that people could be free of their limitations, but then I realize something that changed my whole approach. I finally realized this wasn't realistic or even possible. But what I COULD do was make a difference to those people, such as yourself, who come into my path. Although I have the POTENTIAL to help many people, I only have the CAPACITY to help those who want my help in this moment.
So for now, forget about your potential and focus on your capacity in this moment. Do what you can do right now. Even the smallest step will bring you closer to your desire. Don't wait. Take that small step NOW! Do it TODAY!
Dr Robert Anthony
Monday, 17 October 2011
"You are always living a reflection of whatever you are outputting. And so, if you get into a little pocket where a lot of people are being rude, it's probably because you are being rude—or because you have been aware of people being rude. Nothing ever happens to you that is not part of your vibration!" - Abraham
Friday, 14 October 2011
I want to talk about Fantasy, Theory, Fact. The basis for this concept is that everything has its origination in the form of a Fantasy, which some adventurous soul dares turn into a theory and then becomes bold enough to turn into a fact. This entire transition, of course, is the result of the highest form of no-limit, positive thinking available, yet, the cautious may construe this as erratic behavior.
Give this serious thought for a moment. The idea of moon landings, communicating via a fax machine, traveling on supersonic jets or wearing synthetic garments was, a very short time ago, sheer fantasy. Today, they are almost considered commonplace. Why? How did these things come about?
This entire cosmos is filled with thought stuff - a creative form of energy. Imagination is one of our mental faculties and it is the one we use to fantasize. An active imagination is able to build clear and vivid images. The most important step in building your fantasy is that you not concern yourself with how your fantasy is going to become a reality. Where the resources will come from is of absolutely no concern to you. Let the image evolve freely in your mind. Build the picture in color ... feel it, smell it, taste it, touch it ... all through the aid of your imagination.
Once you've built your fantasy, turning it into a theory calls for you to answer two questions: Are You Able? Are You Willing?
You could very easily be thinking, "Yes. But!" At this point, it's important to remember that you are stepping out of your comfort zone and attempting to go beyond the limits that your old belief system dictate... and whenever that happens, doubt, immediately followed by fear, enters the picture. To be able to answer this question in the affirmative--"Yes, I am definitely able," does not mean that you have to know how it will happen. There is no way that you could know how it will happen...you have never done it before, it's a brand new experience. The Wright Brothers didn't know how to fly when they fantasized themselves doing it! They just believed they could.
The second question: Are you willing? Are you willing to pay the price? Are you willing to make the sacrifices that will be required to turn your dream into a reality? And you know that there will be sacrifices. My mentor, Val Van De Wall shared with me that most people think sacrifice is giving up something. That's not true. Sacrifice is merely releasing something of a lower nature to make room for something of a higher nature.
The minute you answer--"Yes, I am able!" and "Yes, I am willing!" ... your fantasy moves to the next phase of creation and becomes a theory in your consciousness and, at this point, it turns into a goal.
The process of turning your fantasy to fact is ready to move into the final stage ... fact. From this point on, it becomes a lawful process. As you turn the image over to your universal subconscious mind by getting emotionally involved with the image, the laws of the universe kick into gear and begin to turn that image into physical form. The law of perpetual transmutation takes that image and begins to move it into form with and through you. Your vibration starts to change and that causes your behavior to change. Your new vibration sets up an attractive force and begins to attract to you all things requisite to the fulfillment of the picture, through the harmonious vibration of the law of attraction. Although you have no way of knowing exactly how it will move into form, faith and your understanding of the laws will create a knowing within you that it must move into form.
This is the very process that has taken us out of the cave and into the condominium. Let your mind play. Fantasize a much better form of life than you presently enjoy.
To your success,
Sunday, 9 October 2011
The need to struggle and effort to get what we want is an illusion and like all other illusions (or assumptions), by their very nature, they keep us from seeing the truth that is right before us.
We live in a time of striking contrasts. There is tremendous prosperity and at the same time there is also tremendous poverty. Why is this so? The reason is that we (meaning all of us on this planet) must change our paradigm and see abundance as a mindset. Abundance is waking up to the reality that you are already the person you yearn to become and that you already have everything you need.
The denial or more accurately the resistance to your true nature is what keeps you struggling. Abundance is about lovingly accepting WHO and WHERE you are IN THIS MOMENT. It is focusing on all that you have and not losing yourself in all that you don't have. In the end, it is this thought that allows us to live in the Flow of unstoppable riches in every area of our lives.
Thursday, 6 October 2011
Excerpted from the workshop in Albuquerque, NM on Tuesday, August 1st, 2000 # 218
Saturday, 1 October 2011
The Royal College of Psychiatrists says there are now many more students from less privileged backgrounds who are less prepared for university life.
Students also face rising debt and uncertain job prospects, it warns.
It is concerned universities may see counselling and support services as an easy target for cuts.
In a report seen exclusively by the BBC, the college says the massive expansion in the numbers of young people going into higher education has had a significant impact.
Universities are now educating a different type of student from the privileged minority of 20 years ago. Changes in wider society are also being seen on campus, with an increase in students from fractured families. At the same time, the financial cost of going to university has increased.
Dr John Callender, one of the report authors, said: "Many are having to work long hours in paid work on top of full-time academic studies. Many are less well-supported by their families than was the case in years gone by.
"The reasons for this are things like increased rates of marital breakdown and students being drawn from poorer social backgrounds."
He said there are also intense social pressures for many young people, living away from home and trying to live up to the expectation that these years should be a happy and sociable time.
During their years at university, it is thought about 4% of students will turn to counselling services for support. Recent research has suggested that these services are facing increasing demands for their advice.
For Liam Bore, being able to talk to someone made the difference between staying at university and dropping out.
He found himself struggling to maintain his studies after the death of two school friends was followed only a year later by the loss of his mother.
"My concentration wasn't good, I couldn't take on what was going on in the lessons, and that had a big impact on my grades."
With support from the counselling service at the University of Hertfordshire, Liam has negotiated extra time to complete his final assignments and now hopes to leave with a good degree.
Some universities are investing more in support services, in recognition that if students leave their course, it can damage their prospects and lead to the university losing their fees.
Eileen Smith, the head of counselling at the University of Hertfordshire and a joint author of the report, has been advising first-year students about the help available as part of their freshers' week.
She agrees this is a generation for whom the pressures are greater, as many are the first in their family to reach university.
"They might find it harder to negotiate with tutors, they're less sure what to expect, and less confident about asking for help.
"Sometimes there is a lot of pressure on them to succeed. They can be carrying the hopes of a whole family."
The report warns that despite the growing demands, there are concerns for the future of some welfare services, with reports of some universities in England already freezing posts as a result of the financial pressures on higher education.
The RCPsych says this is a crucial time in the lives of young people, whether for temporary support, or early diagnosis of major mental illnesses.
It wants academic staff to receive more training, and greater incentives for GPs interested in running dedicated health services for students.
By Branwen Jeffreys Health correspondent, BBC News