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Dr Robert Anthony: What Scientists And Physicists Are Discovering
Through choosing your intention and then locking your attention, you have chosen - and continue to choose to participate in whichever universe you are currently participating in. So the question we must ask is, which one are we choosing, or more importantly which one will we choose?
Think about this. What scientists and physicists are discovering is that we exist simultaneously in many different forms, dimensions and time. We choose which reality we want to live in based on our intentions and attention.
Now I know your head is about to explode because this seems so unreal, but it is more real than you can imagine or accept right now.
What every theory in quantum physics has in common is that you are the observer and the participant. With your clearly defined INTENTION and your unbending and consistent ATTENTION, you choose which world you're going to participate in.
Science tells us that the things we observe in our outer world are nothing more than a projection from our inner world. Okay, take a breath and let's put it in practical terms.
Imagine you offer a vibration for the future that you want to create $100,000 in the next year. If you are focusing on that, feeling it, acting on it and then reinforcing it with your actions, the money starts to take physical form. Conversely, if you're putting out an intention of $100,000 and you stress out when your credit card bill comes in and you keep telling your friends how broke you are and how bad the economy is, then they cancel each other out.
Any time you think, feel and act broke, or worry about the economy, you are sending out a vibration that is bound to cancel your intention. This is why so many people struggle with manifesting the things they desire in their lives. In other words, only vibrations that are in resonance with each other can harmonize. This is the scientific principle behind the Law of Attraction.
Since we create our reality on whichever dimension we choose to participate, it is critical that the BIG THREE - thoughts, feelings and emotions - are in harmony along with our actions. If they are not in sync, your present and future won't harmonize. They will INTERCEPT, and they will cancel each other out.
Now you can see how setting your desire or intention in the present, that is, creating your vibration, equates with how you are choosing to participate in the universe. If the vibration you are offering is out of resonance or harmony with what is coming back from your future, you won't be able to create it.
This is why making a decision based on where you are going, not where you are is so critical. The key is to accept where you are without resistance. You accept "what is" without fighting it, but you keep your intention on your desire. This is the secret to manifestation.
I suggest you reread this paragraph again.
If you remain at this high level of vibration then you MUST realize that you don't have to create your desire. It is ALREADY created! You just have to align with it. What you desire is in the quantum field of possibilities (alternate universe if you will). So get in harmony with it, start taking action based upon it and that is what will unfold.
Truly Caring for Your Success!
Dr. Robert Anthony
Think about this. What scientists and physicists are discovering is that we exist simultaneously in many different forms, dimensions and time. We choose which reality we want to live in based on our intentions and attention.
Now I know your head is about to explode because this seems so unreal, but it is more real than you can imagine or accept right now.
What every theory in quantum physics has in common is that you are the observer and the participant. With your clearly defined INTENTION and your unbending and consistent ATTENTION, you choose which world you're going to participate in.
Science tells us that the things we observe in our outer world are nothing more than a projection from our inner world. Okay, take a breath and let's put it in practical terms.
Imagine you offer a vibration for the future that you want to create $100,000 in the next year. If you are focusing on that, feeling it, acting on it and then reinforcing it with your actions, the money starts to take physical form. Conversely, if you're putting out an intention of $100,000 and you stress out when your credit card bill comes in and you keep telling your friends how broke you are and how bad the economy is, then they cancel each other out.
Any time you think, feel and act broke, or worry about the economy, you are sending out a vibration that is bound to cancel your intention. This is why so many people struggle with manifesting the things they desire in their lives. In other words, only vibrations that are in resonance with each other can harmonize. This is the scientific principle behind the Law of Attraction.
Since we create our reality on whichever dimension we choose to participate, it is critical that the BIG THREE - thoughts, feelings and emotions - are in harmony along with our actions. If they are not in sync, your present and future won't harmonize. They will INTERCEPT, and they will cancel each other out.
Now you can see how setting your desire or intention in the present, that is, creating your vibration, equates with how you are choosing to participate in the universe. If the vibration you are offering is out of resonance or harmony with what is coming back from your future, you won't be able to create it.
This is why making a decision based on where you are going, not where you are is so critical. The key is to accept where you are without resistance. You accept "what is" without fighting it, but you keep your intention on your desire. This is the secret to manifestation.
I suggest you reread this paragraph again.
If you remain at this high level of vibration then you MUST realize that you don't have to create your desire. It is ALREADY created! You just have to align with it. What you desire is in the quantum field of possibilities (alternate universe if you will). So get in harmony with it, start taking action based upon it and that is what will unfold.
Truly Caring for Your Success!
Dr. Robert Anthony
Sunday, 29 June 2014
Dr. Robert Anthony: Are you swimming UPSTREAM?
Life is like taking a trip on the river and reacting to the FLOW. It is always about the FLOW. The problem is most people take their boat down to the river, put it in the river and then they invariably turn it UPSTREAM and start paddling hard against the current. It never occurs to them to go downstream because they think they have to struggle to have what they want.
Here is a simple idea. Why not go WITH the current instead of fighting AGAINST the current? But you may say, "Struggle and hard work is the only way to get what you want." That's crazy! Here is the important point - NOTHING YOU WANT IS UPSTREAM. Ever!
Every bit of struggle and determination, all that "I am going to heal myself", "I am going to fix this", "I am going to make this better", all of that has you focused UPSTREAM. What I want is for you to feel the ease of letting go of struggle. You don't even have to turn your boat around in the stream and begin paddling downstream - just let go of the oars (struggle) and the current will turn you automatically!
This is not about teaching you to go with the stream because you have no choice. This is about asking the question and helping you answer it. Are you going willingly? Are you going toward your natural unfolding willingly, or are you going to continue to paddle upstream? In every moment the choice of which way you are going to go is yours.
Truly Caring for Your Success!
Dr. Robert Anthony
Wednesday, 18 June 2014
Dr Robert Anthony: Indications Of Your Vibrational Frequency
Everything that manifests in your life or anybody else's life that you are observing, is nothing more than an indication of your vibrational frequency. It is an INDICATOR. Indicators are manifestations of what you have been doing vibrationally. Period. So if wonderful things are happening, you are receiving indications of the vibrations you have been sending out. If things have been out of control in your life, then you've got negative manifestations of what you have been offering vibrationally.
Indicators are just that - indicators. You don't want to kill the messenger. You don't go to the gas station when the gas gauge is on empty and lay your head on the steering wheel in utter despair and say, "Oh look at what I have done. The gas gauge is on empty but I kept driving. My life is a mess". The gas gauge is an indicator and you know you have to do something about it. You don't paste a happy face sticker over the gas gauge because it is depressing to see you are on empty. And you don't usually wait until you are completely out of gas and standing on the side of the road. You fill it up don't you?
That's what we are talking about here. We are talking about your indicator that lets you know what your habit of thought has been. And if you have been feeling pretty crummy lately then it is time for a fill up. If things are not going the way you want them to - it's time to change your thoughts about it. It's time to offer some more deliberate thought. It's time to seek a better attitude.
It's time to stop blaming yourself and others, stop feeling sorry for yourself and become more positive, even in the smallest way. Don't blame your "indicator". Instead, train your mind to look for the good things in your life and you will find them.
Truly Caring for Your Success!
Dr. Robert Anthony
Indicators are just that - indicators. You don't want to kill the messenger. You don't go to the gas station when the gas gauge is on empty and lay your head on the steering wheel in utter despair and say, "Oh look at what I have done. The gas gauge is on empty but I kept driving. My life is a mess". The gas gauge is an indicator and you know you have to do something about it. You don't paste a happy face sticker over the gas gauge because it is depressing to see you are on empty. And you don't usually wait until you are completely out of gas and standing on the side of the road. You fill it up don't you?
That's what we are talking about here. We are talking about your indicator that lets you know what your habit of thought has been. And if you have been feeling pretty crummy lately then it is time for a fill up. If things are not going the way you want them to - it's time to change your thoughts about it. It's time to offer some more deliberate thought. It's time to seek a better attitude.
It's time to stop blaming yourself and others, stop feeling sorry for yourself and become more positive, even in the smallest way. Don't blame your "indicator". Instead, train your mind to look for the good things in your life and you will find them.
Truly Caring for Your Success!
Dr. Robert Anthony
Monday, 21 April 2014
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Dr Robert Anthony: Pessimists Have One Thing In Common...
Are you an optimist or a pessimist?
Psychologist Martin Seligman, the godfather of the positive psychology moment, conducted extensive research in optimists versus pessimists. What he found was optimism can be learned. He discovered that optimists consistently talk about what they are rather than what they are not, or what they have instead of what they don't have. Pessimists have one thing in common, they talk about why things are not the way they should be and what they don't have.
We are not born pessimists. In fact, all children are optimists until we program them differently. Stand outside any amusement park on any given weekend and talk to the families that exit. Kids come out and you ask them, "What did you think of the park?" The gush, "Oh that was so cool!" Now talk to the parents and here is what they say, "Lines are too long". "Food was overpriced". "The damn noise and crowds get on my nerves". So is the amusement park a happy place or a place from hell? The answer is - it is neither. It depends on the meaning we give to it.
How did we go from being born optimists to being pessimists? Somewhere along the way we were trained not to be optimistic in case things don't work out. If you are too optimistic and things don't work out you will be very disappointed. But if you are pessimistic and they don't work out you will be less disappointed and of course, you will be "right".
Seligman also states that we can learn or re-learn how to be optimistic. According to his research optimists outperform pessimists ten to one!
Maybe it is time to reprogram our thinking and ask, "What is good about this situation?" and if we cannot find the good, ask, "What does my reaction to this say about me?" This can help you to become more of an optimist.
Truly Caring for Your Success!
Dr. Robert Anthony
Monday, 27 January 2014
Vacuous Nonsense - 5 Ways to Be Happier at Work
As expected there is a load of vacuous nonsense out there on this subject. Here's an example!
Is this you?
5 Ways to Be Happier at Work by Kelly Verdi
Stuck in a rut? These simple tips can help you perform better and feel more inspired in and out of the office.
The good old saying goes, “to each his own.” Whether it’s creating a playlist, overspending on a chai soy latte or sneaking in some online shopping, everyone has at least one way of making their work day a little more enjoyable. The fact is, however, is that there are several, easy ways that will not only get you through your day quicker, but may have you feeling happier (and even healthier) long after you leave office life in the dust. Try incorporating these simple tasks into your work week – after all – it is how you spend at least 40 hours of your time.
GET IT OVER WITH
Are there certain tasks to your day that you absolutely dread? Instead of putting off your least favorite responsibilities for after lunch, prioritize to tackle these duties first. That way, you’ll have more to look forward to for the rest of the day and won’t find yourself struggling to complete the more challenging assignments at the very last minute. Studies also show that work productivity is at its best earlier in the day, so use this statistic to your advantage and remember to eat a balanced breakfast!
DESK FLAIR
For many, the office literally is home away from home. So why not make it feel that way? Surround yourself with framed pictures of loved ones, flowers, candles (as long as they’re not against your office’s policy) or anything else that gives you a warm, cozy feeling. Try sticking some fresh lavender in your pen jar- this miracle plant has amazing therapeutic benefits that can help keep you keep calm and cool as a cucumber throughout the day.
SNACK ON ALMONDS
Nobody likes a “hangry” person – that is—the product of being so hungry, you become angry. Keep raw almonds close by for snacking in between meals. They’ll not only curve your appetite and help you stay full, but also have tremendous nutritional value. Loaded with vitamins and minerals, almonds are even considered “brain food” according to a recent article by Dr. David B. Samadi. Their healthy levels of vitamin E have been shown to prevent cognitive decline, boost alertness and preserve memory longer.
STRETCH
Whether you’re constantly on your feet or stuck behind a computer, the power of some thorough stretching at least once a day can do wonders. You’ll release toxins from your muscles and improve blood flow, circulation and even your posture. Your newly relaxed muscles will be thankful for the much-needed attention!
SMILE MORE
We’ve saved the best for last, probably because it’s the most simple of tasks on our list. Even when you don’t think you could be having a worse day, many experts recommend smiling for at least ten seconds to help dissipate any negative thoughts or feelings. This will help trick your brain into thinking you’re happy, and a warm smile can help spread happiness to others in the process. We like to call this the smile effect.
Kelly Verdi is the Public Relations Manager at Spa Week Media Group. She loves dogs, 80 minute facials and a good blowout worth bragging about.
http://www.spaweekblog.com/2013/11/07/6-ways-to-be-happier-at-work/
Is this you?
5 Ways to Be Happier at Work by Kelly Verdi
Stuck in a rut? These simple tips can help you perform better and feel more inspired in and out of the office.
The good old saying goes, “to each his own.” Whether it’s creating a playlist, overspending on a chai soy latte or sneaking in some online shopping, everyone has at least one way of making their work day a little more enjoyable. The fact is, however, is that there are several, easy ways that will not only get you through your day quicker, but may have you feeling happier (and even healthier) long after you leave office life in the dust. Try incorporating these simple tasks into your work week – after all – it is how you spend at least 40 hours of your time.
GET IT OVER WITH
Are there certain tasks to your day that you absolutely dread? Instead of putting off your least favorite responsibilities for after lunch, prioritize to tackle these duties first. That way, you’ll have more to look forward to for the rest of the day and won’t find yourself struggling to complete the more challenging assignments at the very last minute. Studies also show that work productivity is at its best earlier in the day, so use this statistic to your advantage and remember to eat a balanced breakfast!
DESK FLAIR
For many, the office literally is home away from home. So why not make it feel that way? Surround yourself with framed pictures of loved ones, flowers, candles (as long as they’re not against your office’s policy) or anything else that gives you a warm, cozy feeling. Try sticking some fresh lavender in your pen jar- this miracle plant has amazing therapeutic benefits that can help keep you keep calm and cool as a cucumber throughout the day.
SNACK ON ALMONDS
Nobody likes a “hangry” person – that is—the product of being so hungry, you become angry. Keep raw almonds close by for snacking in between meals. They’ll not only curve your appetite and help you stay full, but also have tremendous nutritional value. Loaded with vitamins and minerals, almonds are even considered “brain food” according to a recent article by Dr. David B. Samadi. Their healthy levels of vitamin E have been shown to prevent cognitive decline, boost alertness and preserve memory longer.
STRETCH
Whether you’re constantly on your feet or stuck behind a computer, the power of some thorough stretching at least once a day can do wonders. You’ll release toxins from your muscles and improve blood flow, circulation and even your posture. Your newly relaxed muscles will be thankful for the much-needed attention!
SMILE MORE
We’ve saved the best for last, probably because it’s the most simple of tasks on our list. Even when you don’t think you could be having a worse day, many experts recommend smiling for at least ten seconds to help dissipate any negative thoughts or feelings. This will help trick your brain into thinking you’re happy, and a warm smile can help spread happiness to others in the process. We like to call this the smile effect.
Kelly Verdi is the Public Relations Manager at Spa Week Media Group. She loves dogs, 80 minute facials and a good blowout worth bragging about.
http://www.spaweekblog.com/2013/11/07/6-ways-to-be-happier-at-work/
I just found this posting on Monster.com about ensuring your workplace is a happy one. But where employers expect workers to spend on average 40 hours a week in their workplace, are employers doing enough to keep you wanting to work there? And is their culture one of 'encouraged, enthusiastic productivity' or 'results through intimidation'? I'm seriously thinking of researching and writing a book about this. What do you think?
7 Simple Ways To Cultivate A Happy Workplace - Happiness at work
By Cheryl Stein - Monster Business Coach
It is very easy to get caught up in worrying if your company is going to do well and forgetting about the things that make people want to work for you. Making your organization a happy place to go to work is an essential component to the successful long-lasting business.
A happy work environment attracts good people and helps the people who work for you do the best for the company.
To create that kind of environment, it takes a strong top down and bottom up approach.
It takes creativity and presence of mind.
It takes proper hiring practices and clear expectations.
You can have it. You can be the one to start it. Once it gets underway, the feeling is infectious and your best bet is to think of your happy workplace as a sound investment.
Happy is not just a pipe dream. There is theory and study behind it. A whole field of Psychology is devoted to it. Martin Seligman, author of “Authentic Happiness” along with many other researchers, has done an in depth study of what makes people happy. You won’t be surprised to know that buying something new might make you happy for a few minutes but like a sugar rush, wears off really quickly. This is the workplace equivalent of landing a great contract or getting a great price reduction. It is exciting but very short lived.
The next level of happiness, which tends to last a lot longer, is the feeling that you have a pleasant life. That kind of feeling comes from liking what you are doing and feeling good about your job. The most sustainable level of happiness is being able to feel like you are giving back to this world.
There are many things you can do to make a sustainably happy organization. Here are some ways to get started:
1. Hire Happy Personalities
Hiring people who are going to help make your workplace happier will take a little thought and preparation. It is natural to focus on relevant experience and past achievements when interviewing a candidate. And you are right to want those things for your company. But ignoring the personality is a mistake.
The greatest candidate on paper might be the worst person to bring into your office. Look for the intangibles. Be very aware of how you feel around the person. Do they seem like they focus on the positives or negatives? Do they laugh? Do they smile? Do they seem like they create and nurture relationships? While their track record in terms of performance is very important, a person that brings gloom and doom to the workplace will kill productivity and motivation.
2. Be Community Minded at Work
Make a point of encouraging people to say hi to each other. Sounds simple but it is actually an incredible way to build a sense of workplace community and something that busy focused people forget. Start by making it a policy to have your executives and managers make sure to take the time to say hi. Choose ambassadors from all different levels and areas of your company to do the same. Acknowledging people can change the entire atmosphere and make your workplace be a much nicer place.
3. Get Out of the Work Routine Occasionally
We have a tendency not to focus on the big picture when we are really busy. This prevents us from creating perks or planning fun events that make the workplace happier. Treat people to something surprisingly good and fun. A day at the amusement park, a movie in the afternoon with popcorn and candy, chair massages. Anything you can think of to make people feel that you are doing something nice for them will make people feel happier.
4. Show That You Care About Your Employees
Ever hear of the Hawthorne effect? It’s the increase in productivity in the workplace when people feel that they are cared about. It makes people happy to be asked how they are and for you to take a little time to find out how things are going in their lives. That doesn’t mean spending hours at the water cooler having conversations about people’s lives. It means remembering to take the time to say, “How are you”.
5. Encourage Some Selfish Thinking
Part of the secret to being happy at work is to encourage people to have personal career goals. When people feel that they are working toward something, the day-to-day politics and stresses of the workplace don’t matter as much. Each challenging day can be better tolerated because it is a means to a personal end. People are able to separate themselves from their jobs and not become mired in the negativity when they are focused on reaching personal goals.
6. Focus on the Positive
Lots of places get caught up in the negative. They debrief by going over what didn’t work. Turn that around. Focus on the positive. That doesn’t mean that you should ignore the things that need to be improved on, it just means that when you are looking for the good, you will find the good. If you look for the bad, everything will seem bleak.
7. Give Back With Your Employees
Do something to give back to your community or to the world. Having a company wide initiative that makes a difference will make people feel connected to the greater good. Take a poll. Find out what people care about and get their opinions on how best to accomplish those goals.
Thoughtful Actions = Happy Work Environment
You can have a happy workplace if you take the time to make it a happy workplace. Hire happy people. Don’t get caught up in focusing on the negative and make sure to do the little things that make a difference in people’s lives. It won’t be a major cultural change at first but I can promise you that slowly but surely, your workplace will become a better place and people will do better work.
That should make you very happy.
From: http://hiring.monster.ca/hr/hr-best-practices/workforce-management/employee-performance-management/seven-simple-ways-to-cultivate-a-happy-workplace.aspx
7 Simple Ways To Cultivate A Happy Workplace - Happiness at work
By Cheryl Stein - Monster Business Coach
It is very easy to get caught up in worrying if your company is going to do well and forgetting about the things that make people want to work for you. Making your organization a happy place to go to work is an essential component to the successful long-lasting business.
A happy work environment attracts good people and helps the people who work for you do the best for the company.
To create that kind of environment, it takes a strong top down and bottom up approach.
It takes creativity and presence of mind.
It takes proper hiring practices and clear expectations.
You can have it. You can be the one to start it. Once it gets underway, the feeling is infectious and your best bet is to think of your happy workplace as a sound investment.
Happy is not just a pipe dream. There is theory and study behind it. A whole field of Psychology is devoted to it. Martin Seligman, author of “Authentic Happiness” along with many other researchers, has done an in depth study of what makes people happy. You won’t be surprised to know that buying something new might make you happy for a few minutes but like a sugar rush, wears off really quickly. This is the workplace equivalent of landing a great contract or getting a great price reduction. It is exciting but very short lived.
The next level of happiness, which tends to last a lot longer, is the feeling that you have a pleasant life. That kind of feeling comes from liking what you are doing and feeling good about your job. The most sustainable level of happiness is being able to feel like you are giving back to this world.
There are many things you can do to make a sustainably happy organization. Here are some ways to get started:
1. Hire Happy Personalities
Hiring people who are going to help make your workplace happier will take a little thought and preparation. It is natural to focus on relevant experience and past achievements when interviewing a candidate. And you are right to want those things for your company. But ignoring the personality is a mistake.
The greatest candidate on paper might be the worst person to bring into your office. Look for the intangibles. Be very aware of how you feel around the person. Do they seem like they focus on the positives or negatives? Do they laugh? Do they smile? Do they seem like they create and nurture relationships? While their track record in terms of performance is very important, a person that brings gloom and doom to the workplace will kill productivity and motivation.
2. Be Community Minded at Work
Make a point of encouraging people to say hi to each other. Sounds simple but it is actually an incredible way to build a sense of workplace community and something that busy focused people forget. Start by making it a policy to have your executives and managers make sure to take the time to say hi. Choose ambassadors from all different levels and areas of your company to do the same. Acknowledging people can change the entire atmosphere and make your workplace be a much nicer place.
3. Get Out of the Work Routine Occasionally
We have a tendency not to focus on the big picture when we are really busy. This prevents us from creating perks or planning fun events that make the workplace happier. Treat people to something surprisingly good and fun. A day at the amusement park, a movie in the afternoon with popcorn and candy, chair massages. Anything you can think of to make people feel that you are doing something nice for them will make people feel happier.
4. Show That You Care About Your Employees
Ever hear of the Hawthorne effect? It’s the increase in productivity in the workplace when people feel that they are cared about. It makes people happy to be asked how they are and for you to take a little time to find out how things are going in their lives. That doesn’t mean spending hours at the water cooler having conversations about people’s lives. It means remembering to take the time to say, “How are you”.
5. Encourage Some Selfish Thinking
Part of the secret to being happy at work is to encourage people to have personal career goals. When people feel that they are working toward something, the day-to-day politics and stresses of the workplace don’t matter as much. Each challenging day can be better tolerated because it is a means to a personal end. People are able to separate themselves from their jobs and not become mired in the negativity when they are focused on reaching personal goals.
6. Focus on the Positive
Lots of places get caught up in the negative. They debrief by going over what didn’t work. Turn that around. Focus on the positive. That doesn’t mean that you should ignore the things that need to be improved on, it just means that when you are looking for the good, you will find the good. If you look for the bad, everything will seem bleak.
7. Give Back With Your Employees
Do something to give back to your community or to the world. Having a company wide initiative that makes a difference will make people feel connected to the greater good. Take a poll. Find out what people care about and get their opinions on how best to accomplish those goals.
Thoughtful Actions = Happy Work Environment
You can have a happy workplace if you take the time to make it a happy workplace. Hire happy people. Don’t get caught up in focusing on the negative and make sure to do the little things that make a difference in people’s lives. It won’t be a major cultural change at first but I can promise you that slowly but surely, your workplace will become a better place and people will do better work.
That should make you very happy.
From: http://hiring.monster.ca/hr/hr-best-practices/workforce-management/employee-performance-management/seven-simple-ways-to-cultivate-a-happy-workplace.aspx
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